Abusive relationship with a good Father?

God is good! All the time! All the time, God is good!

Tell me you heard that at some stage in a church? There is such an importance in the fact that God, our Father in heaven, is good! As we know the Bible states that He is the giver of good gifts!

In John 10 Jesus says :

Joh 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
Joh 10:11 I am the Good Shepherd. The Good Shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.

There are so many verses that let’s us know God is good. But so often I hear these questions :

1 : Why would a good Father let this happen in the world?

2 : Why doesn’t God want to give me this or that since He is good?

We try to reconcile the idea of His goodness through our circumstances while we find ourselves and others’ lives in questionable circumstances.  we base our ideology on a Father that made promises & then we demand to see that He fulfills it! Soon ,in having these questions, without us stating it, we feel like we are in an abusive relationship with a “Good Father”; making promises that He never keeps & we have to suffer  while we wait.

If you are asking these questions today, I would like to ask some questions too if I may.

Is a Father truly good to their child if they do everything for him or her? Wouldn’t that child be completely dependent on that Fathers actions? Of course they would. This might even sound ok, since we should be dependent on God!? But should we be dependent on Gods actions now?

To that I say ..NO.

The fact that He laid down His life for you showed you His actions &  He overcame the world for you! That’s a good God! But now today we don’t always or even sometimes see that victory in the world. How is this possible?

Joh 1:10 He was in the world, and the world came into being through Him, and the world did not know Him.
Joh 1:11 He came to His own, and His own received Him not.
Joh 1:12 But as many as received Him, He gave to them authority to become the children of God, to those who believe on His name,
Joh 1:13 who were born, not of bloods, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but were born of God.

This is the Word of God, Jesus Christ. He came not to give us cars & houses or trouble free lives even, but He came to give us Himself. Now we have this great opportunity to receive Him! But it is left to us to do this since there were some who did not receive Him.

So if you have been given the authority as a child of God, what will you do with your life? Will you not do everything to not just let bad things happen in the world? Here comes the main two questions :

What kind of person do you need to be to walk in the promises of God?

What kind of person do you need to be to help bring answers to the problems you see around you?

If you step into the identity God gave you as someone that is born of God, He will give you the things needed for the journey through the world. Mat 6 : 33

Never let the world tell you your identity.

Joh 1:13 who were born, not of bloods, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but were born of God

So does He let stuff happen? No, not since He now lives in you & gave you the power walk as His child.

Does He not come through on His promises? He does to all His children, because it’s all about who they are to Him & it is not just a external relationship as He now lives through us from the inside out.

Too many of us still try to live a life as if we belong to ourselves, while Christ paid such a great price in order for us to live His life & leave our old life behind. So we try ask God to tend to our old life & make sure everything works well while He hung on that cross to kill our old life with Him! it’s time to leave it ll behind & follow Him & trust that He is a good Father & you are a good son/daughter through Christ!

2Co 5:14 For the love of Christ constrains us, judging this, that if one died for all, then all died;
2Co 5:15 and He died for all, that the living ones may live no more to themselves, but to Him who died for them and having been raised.
2Co 5:16 So as we now know no one according to flesh, but even if we have known Christ according to flesh, yet now we no longer know Him so.
2Co 5:17 So that if any one is in Christ, that one is a new creature; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

Carlo Merrick
Carlo Merrick